Here are the skills:
- Networking: A corollary of leadership
- How to sell: Presentation, vision, motivation, sales.
- Negotiation: Which means win-win, Not war.
- The Google Rule: Always send people to the best resource. Even if it's a competitor. The benefit to you comes back tenfold.
- The 1% Rule: Every week, try to get better 1% physically, mentally, and emotionally.
- Idea Sex (but with protection!)
- Reinvention: Which will happen repeatedly throughout life.
- Leadership (which is really a course about how to deal with both vision and anger at the same time): Give more to others than you expect back for yourself.
- Mastery; How to master any field: You can't learn this in school with each 'field' being regimented into equal 50 minute periods. Mastery begins when formal education ends. Find the topic that sets your heart on fire. Then combust.
- Finding signal in the noise: News, advice books, fees upon fees in almost every area of your life. Find the signal outside of the noise everyone else marches to .
- Themes > Goals: Goals will break your heart. Have a theme. You can build your days around your themes. In the short blink that thins out your life, when you reach the point where goals matter no more, the themes of your life will shine bright.
- Creativity: Take down a pad. Write down a list of ideas, everyday.
- Failure (a skill not taught until many years after the degree. But it is taught, believe me, you will learn it or die): Learn how to fail so that failure turns into a beginning.
- Give and you will receive: Give constantly to the people in your network. The value of your network increases linearly if you get to know more people, but exponentially if the people you know get to know and help each other.
- Simple tools: To increase productivity
If I were creating a college, these would be the only classes.
Or maybe I'm just like a failed athlete who wishes for his kids what he didn't have for himself, whether they want it or not.
I'll never really know the answer.
But I do know this:
- These skills are not taught in school.
- These skills are absolutely necessary for any kind of real-life success. ALL of these skills.
- Skills > Degrees in the modern economy.
- These skills will put you way ahead of any competition. You will be your own category.
- You can learn these skills (sometimes) on the job, or in online settings. Or by reading.
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Or by finding a:
Plus: mentors to model yourself after (real or virtual)
Equals: who can challenge you and bring out your potential
Minus: people you can teach, to solidify your learning.
Remember getting an "A"? And it felt good? It felt like, "I won!"
And then it became too easy to get the As. Schools lulled us into some form of complacency, where an "A" was the new normal and anything below was considered unhealthy.
What happened to the idea that a 40% success rate made someone the best baseball player in the history of the world?
Or the idea that if only 50% of your business decisions are correct, you'll have a billion dollar business.
Or the idea that, in the hands of an artist, even the wrong note can be turned into beautiful music?
Life is improv. Not a fact test. You take the bad notes and weave them into music.
Now we get the "participation" trophy for showing up.
My Mac is broken. The easiest computer in the world to use and I broke the keyboard. Do I suffer for my sins?
Of course not, I get to go to the "Genius Bar" and get it fixed. The Genius Bar at the Apple store is the participation trophy for adults.
One day I will get good at these skills.
I guess I lied.
This is not a letter for my kids. This is a love letter to me.
This article originally appeared on LinkedIn.