and Harry Holds Hands But Prince William and Kate Middleton Rarely Do. Here’s Why.

Prince William and Kate Middleton, Duchess of Cambridge had seen ’round the world on the balcony of Buckingham Palace on April 29, 2011 when 23 million Americans and 27 million British viewers tuned into the royal wedding. Other than that embrace, notable public displays of affection between Prince William and Kate Middleton have been few and far between. But that’s not to say it doesn’t ever happen.

Prince Harry and his fiancée maintain a different approach to PDA as their May 19 wedding nears. After their public appearance together in September at the Invictus Games and their subsequent engagement announced on November 27, 2017, the couple is not necessarily reading from the same royal handbook as William and Kate. TIME took a look at why the couples differ in their methods of showing affection in public.

Are Prince William and Kate Middleton allowed to hold hands in public?

Yes. There is no official rule per se preventing them from showing public displays of affection. Grant Harrold, former butler to Princes William and Harry, told TIME that when it comes to hand-holding and moments of touching, it “depends on where the royals are and what situation they’re in.” Their casual touching during a Royal visit at a ski jump in Oslo, Norway is more relaxed than a formal and ritual event, such as Trooping the Colour.

“The British Royal family has been creating etiquette rules for centuries,” Harrold said. “The Royals adapt etiquette for what is best at that point in time.”

In addition, the amount that they touch and hold hands could be a completely personal preference for the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge. Harrold said, “We don’t need to see too much—they have a private life of their own.”

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge walk hand in hand from Buckingham Palace the day after their wedding to a waiting helicopter as they leave for a secret honeymoon location, on April 30, 2011 in London, England.

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge walk hand in hand from Buckingham Palace the day after their wedding to a waiting helicopter as they leave for a secret honeymoon location, on April 30, 2011 in London, England.

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Don’t Meghan Markle and Prince Harry hold hands all the time?

They often do. Meghan’s first royal engagement in Nottingham with Prince Harry in December was no exception to this as they held hands and each other’s backs throughout the day. Situations like the Invictus Games allow for a more relaxed and informal atmosphere where hand holding and cuddling would not be unheard of.

Prince Harry and fiancee Meghan Markle attend the Terrence Higgins Trust World AIDS Day charity fair at Nottingham Contemporary on December 1, 2017 in Nottingham, England.

Prince Harry and fiancee Meghan Markle attend the Terrence Higgins Trust World AIDS Day charity fair at Nottingham Contemporary on December 1, 2017 in Nottingham, England.

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While Meghan continues to make her foray into the British royal family and society, she and Prince Harry can still enjoy PDA like the rest of us mere mortals. In fact, it makes them more relatable. Plus, the public wants to see their affection. “The younger royals are re-writing the etiquette rules. We should expect them to become more relaxed over time, especially with Harry and Meghan,” Harrold said.

Read more: 5 Ways Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s Engagement Is Groundbreaking

Do Prince William and Kate ever show public displays of affection?

Yes, of course. The touches appear very subtle most of the time, with Prince William touching Kate’s back or his arm around her shoulder. Here are a few instances when that happened.

Introducing the new royal baby into the world outside the Lindo Wing at St. Mary’s hospital

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge depart the Lindo Wing with their newborn son at St Mary's Hospital on April 23, 2018 in London, England. The Duchess safely delivered a boy at 11:01 am, weighing 8lbs 7oz, who will be fifth in line to the throne.

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge depart the Lindo Wing with their newborn son at St Mary's Hospital on April 23, 2018 in London, England. The Duchess safely delivered a boy at 11:01 am, weighing 8lbs 7oz, who will be fifth in line to the throne.

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Prince William touches Kate’s back during the 2018 Irish Guards St. Patrick’s Day Parade.

Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge and Prince William, Duke Of Cambridge attend the annual Irish Guards St Patrick's Day Parade at Cavalry Barracks on March 17, 2018 in Hounslow, England.

Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge and Prince William, Duke Of Cambridge attend the annual Irish Guards St Patrick's Day Parade at Cavalry Barracks on March 17, 2018 in Hounslow, England.

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They smile and laugh during hike in Bhutan

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge half way on their hike to Paro Taktsang, the Tiger's Nest monastery on April 15, 2016 in Paro, Bhutan.

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge half way on their hike to Paro Taktsang, the Tiger's Nest monastery on April 15, 2016 in Paro, Bhutan.

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William and Kate after a polo match in 2011

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge celebrate after Williams' team won the Foundation Polo Challenge at the Santa Barbara Racquet and Polo Club on July 9, 2011 in Santa Barbara, California.

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge celebrate after Williams' team won the Foundation Polo Challenge at the Santa Barbara Racquet and Polo Club on July 9, 2011 in Santa Barbara, California.

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William and Kate walking together after a crew race in Heidelberg, Germany

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge after participating in a rowing race between the twinned town of Cambridge and Heidelberg on day 2 of their official visit to Germany on July 20, 2017 in Heidelberg, Germany.

Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge after participating in a rowing race between the twinned town of Cambridge and Heidelberg on day 2 of their official visit to Germany on July 20, 2017 in Heidelberg, Germany.

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Does the order of succession to the throne have anything to do with the royal PDA rules?

Most likely, yes. William is second in line to the throne whereas Prince Harry is now sixth. Prince Harry was fifth, but the birth of the new royal baby bumped him down a spot in accordance with the British line of succession and the new Succession to the Crown Act. “Prince William could one day be king,” Harrold said. “There are very strict rules around that. William and Kate have a modern feel, but still do things by the book.”

Britain's Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh (C) gestures as he is followed by (L-R) Britain's Prince William, Duke of Cambridge, Britain's Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, US actress and fiancee of Britain's Prince Harry Meghan Markle and Britain's Prince Harry arriving to attend the Royal Family's traditional Christmas Day church service at St Mary Magdalene Church in Sandringham, Norfolk, eastern England, on December 25, 2017.

Britain's Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh (C) gestures as he is followed by (L-R) Britain's Prince William, Duke of Cambridge, Britain's Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, US actress and fiancee of Britain's Prince Harry Meghan Markle and Britain's Prince Harry arriving to attend the Royal Family's traditional Christmas Day church service at St Mary Magdalene Church in Sandringham, Norfolk, eastern England, on December 25, 2017.

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According to Harrold, Harry and Meghan have more flexibility to “be themselves.” He explains, “It’s not that William and Kate are not themselves, but there is not the same pressure for Harry.”

How different did William and Kate’s engagement look from Harry and Meghan’s?

Prince William and Kate got engaged on Nov. 16, 2010, which is almost seven years to the day of Prince Harry and Meghan’s Nov. 27 engagement announcment. Their official engagement photos nonetheless have some major differences. In one of Prince William and Kate’s photos, they are seen standing in a grand room smiling with her hands on his arm and his hand on her hip. Their second photo appears much more candid. According to Harper’s Bazaar, Prince William and Kate’s photographer Mario Testino was one of Princess Diana’s favorites.

Similar to their differences in PDA, Prince Harry and Meghan’s photos involve more physical contact. Harry and Meghan are sitting down with their heads touching with Harry’s arm on top of hers. Just like William and Kate, their second photo looks like they were focusing solely on each other, not the photographer Alexi Lubomirski.

Prince William and Kate Middleton pose for photographs in the State Apartments of St James Palace on November 16, 2010 in London, England.

Prince William and Kate Middleton pose for photographs in the State Apartments of St James Palace on November 16, 2010 in London, England.

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Are there any other etiquette rules we should know about?

According to Harrold, “Never hug a Royal unless they offer it first.” Noted.

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