We all have them—bits of information about ourselves and things that have happened to us that we choose not to share with others. But when it comes to your S.O., that one person who you're supposed to trust before all else, where do you draw the line?
Well, as far as we're concerned, what you share with the class and keep to yourself is totally up to you.
But we asked these brutally honest women to tell us their juicy confessions and whether or not they ended up telling their partners. Here's what they had to say.
1/6 Alyssa Zolna
“My boyfriend is a total Health nut and gym rat. I am anything but. He’s always known this about me. And since the very beginning of our relationship, it’s been a bit of an issue for us. He goes to the gym after work, and I snack on the couch and watch Netflix. A lot of the time when he comes home all hot and sweaty, I’m ready to get it on! But just when I thought he was getting comfortable with our separate routines, he asked me to commit to a workout routine of my own. He asked me to go a minimum of two times a week. He even paid for me to get ClassPass! Instead of actually following through with this, I let my friend use my account. She lives a few blocks from where I work and loves fitness classes. I show my boyfriend how many classes I go to (in reality I’ve gone to one and it was restorative yoga). He’s so proud!” —Kailyn B. (You don't need to work out for hours to see results. Torch fat, get fit, and look and feel great with Women's Health's All in 18 DVD!)
2/6 Alyssa Zolna
“I was afraid of how he would respond and that he wouldn’t want me anymore. About four years into the relationship, I finally came out to him because I felt like I wasn’t living authentically. I couldn’t be me, and I realized I needed to be honest with him and myself. He took it a lot better than I expected and we stayed together for a few years before ultimately breaking up. I never really gave myself the opportunity to explore relationships with other women, so I ended up leaving him to find myself. I’m not the type of person to settle, so I wanted to make sure that I gave myself the ability to learn everything I could about myself and my sexuality. If things are meant to be with him, they’ll work themselves out down the road.” —Amanda B.
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3/6 Alyssa Zolna
“My husband and I were married for nearly eight years before I told him about the abortion I had when I was 22 (I was with someone else at the time). That secret functioned as a wedge. I didn't tell him because I was still so sad about it. I didn't want to talk to him about how emotionally attached to that event (and my then boyfriend) I still was. I didn't want it to hurt his feelings. We had already had two children when I finally told him. He was sad for me and he understood why I seemed so distant at times. It was a relief to tell him and it’s made us closer. I know now that I can tell him anything without fear of judgment. In fact, I rarely visit that sad place anymore. And when I do, I can share those feelings with my husband. It felt good to uncover it.” —Lauren C.
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4/6 Alyssa Zolna
“I think the biggest secret I’ve kept from both of my husbands (I’ve been married twice) has been that I never orgasmed during sexual intercourse. My first husband tried very hard to make intercourse fulfilling for me. In the beginning, I was honest about my inability to orgasm. He tried very hard to help me. I got tired of trying. It was as if he felt that if he just kept going, I would eventually achieve orgasm. I got sore, then bored, then just not interested in an orgasm. I faked it every time to get him to feel like he had done his job. If I didn't he would probably still be on top of me! With my second husband, I just faked it from the start. I didn't want him to keep working at it because I knew it wasn't going to do any good. To let him know would only have hurt his already damaged ego. I think many women are in my position. My husbands did try clitoral stimulation, and my first husband was able to bring me to orgasm with manual stimulation that way. My second was not. I did not care. I satisfied myself in private.” —Hannah L. (But here's why being honest about your orgasm might be the key to a better sex life.)
5/6 Alyssa Zolna
“When I started dating my now-husband, I smoked and he knew. When we moved in together a year later, he told me that he would not live with a smoker, mainly because practically everyone in his family is a smoker and he was worried about my health. I quit and moved in with him. But after some time went by, I started smoking again. At first, it was occasionally with friends and then it eventually started creeping into every day. Sometimes, I'll have one or two cigarettes a day and he has no idea.” —Kelley K.
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6/6 Alyssa Zolna
“During the summer of 2015, I discovered my husband of eight years had cheated on me. I was devastated, humiliated, and disgusted. As we worked through our issues, I decided to sign up for Ashley Madison, the cheating website, and went on a six-month sex bender. It was the best secret revenge ever! He still doesn't know I'm active on the website.” —Breanna H.